Everyone has an opinion about almost everything. Even when their opinion is wrong, they tend to treat it like its fact. That’s humans for you. The brain keeps working to make sense of what we see, hear or read, doesn’t always mean the deduction is 100% accurate. People have opinions about things they have no idea of!
Even before getting to know you, people usually have a kind of opinion about who you are, and some take it too far as to describe you as what they think you are. You hear someone say, “before we became friends, I used to think you were proud, but now, I see that I was wrong.” That’s so common and I must admit I’ve thought so of people before. But the mistake most people make is not caring to find out if that’s really the case. A lot of people have actually told me how they believed I was a gentle person and good, because I was always quiet while others thought I was complicated because I was quiet and mostly not smiling…well…
The good news is, everyone has a right to their opinion. But the problem these days is, most people don’t usually care to verify if their opinion about something or someone is true or valid. Why? Because people stopped asking questions. That is why everyone seems to know everything when in reality, they know nothing. That’s why we don’t know each other anymore. We no longer communicate, we no longer seek to be informed.
Everyone is talking but very few are actually listening, very few are paying attention to details. A lot of people want to be heard above the voice of others, be it by seeking more attention on social media or however. Most people are in haste but just a few are patient and attentive. These days, paying attention seems to be a virtue that only few people possess. And that’s why only few actually know what they are doing.
If only we could stop for a moment and listen, pay attention to what is going on around and what others around us are saying. If only we could give attention to details and ask questions instead of jump into conclusion. If only we could see that our problems that we’ve set up so high that we think no else understands so no need to try explaining, if only we could see that those problems aren’t as big as we think compared to those around….
Maybe then we would see that there are lots of people we are capable of helping, and there are lots of people out there going through something similar. Maybe then we would learn to help each other up and stop hurting in silence while putting on a fake smile. Maybe then we would stop judging others based on what we think they are… Maybe, just maybe then, the world could actually become a better place for us and generations to come.