In the event that things don’t turn out the way we plan for it to, all hell has the potential to go loose. It is instinctual to want order in our lives. But one of the most dominant things in our existence is the ever presence of chaos, unpredictability, the unknown–in the weather, in the response and reaction of others around us, in the future. We are surrounded by uncertainties and it is normal for us to want to exert control and authority over the things closest to us, over the people around us. It is only human of us to want to be in charge of something, because then, we don’t feel so helpless and useless.
I was in the middle of my devotion this morning (one of my morning routines) and as I was meditating, I was thankful for my position in space-time, my lacks, my wants, my families and friends, my life. Then a simple phrase just popped into my mind, right in the middle of my appreciation:
It was so profound and resonant that I had to pause and listen clearly. It came again: Memento Mori.
Life is not just a game, according to Jordan Peterson, it is a set of games, and the rule is never sacrifice victory across a set of games for victory in a single game.
It’s simple. Our lives are made up of series of events, and while all these events and our responses to them define the kind of life we have, no single event is our life.
The important thing is, while we are doing everything we can to make each event as successful as possible in order to richly fortify our life as a whole, there are some times when victory in a single game would significantly alter our life negatively. And such an impact might be very hard to recover from.
Lately, I’ve been working hard on myself.
Since late last year, I developed the habit of pushing past my limits, both physically and mentally.
I started working on my body, running miles till I feel my lungs would collapse but going further anyway, working out till my muscles are all strained and feeling messed up, yet I still push myself up.
I also pushed through my mental limits. I began to read outside my domain of comfort. Subjects that require deep thinking and concentration.
I started asking tough questions that have kept me and a while lot of other people boxed up for so long because we are scared to challenge some set powers.
There is something about knowledge, the more you know, the more you realise how little you know, the more you want to know more.
The need to know is ever rising and with the advent of the internet, a lot of information is shoved in our faces every time we go online. Everyone has an opinion. On a particular topic you can find as much different opinions as possible, some with valid convincing points.
But that’s not all.
Sometimes it will look like nothing is working out in your favour. Sometimes it will feel like the universe is conspiring against you and luck has turned its back on you. Sometimes the feeling of helplessness may become so overwhelming that you are forced to consider lowering your standard.
If you’ve ever felt like that, you are not alone. It is a natural feeling in times of distress.
But there is something that serves like a support system in this trying times that everyone needs to have, and it’s none other than the good foundations provided by correct principles.
Principles are the foundation of anyone’s character. The kinds of principles your life is based on determines the kind of person you are. It also determines the kinds of virtue and skills that can be built on it, virtues that are compatible with the principles. Continue reading “The Firm Foundation Your Life Needs”
Close your eyes.
There are two people in the room with you. One is near your left ear, the other towards by your right. One has a story to tell you and the other is dumb.
They are both quiet.
Can you tell with your eyes closed (or even opened) who has a story to tell?
Chances are, no, you can’t.
A person who doesn’t speak in this context is no different from a person who can’t speak.
There is a lesson that says, “always say less than is necessary.”
Meaning, what you FEEL you need to say, is most likely not really needed to be said.